My Story

Soooo… a little about why I put so much work into creating a social media presence. They always say don’t judge a book, right? Please read this before you decide to form an opinion about someone you don’t actually know.

My name is Shay. I’m the daughter of an addict. That doesn’t define me, but it absolutely helped shape the person I am today. I’ve made my own mistakes, sure…but I’ve also spent a lot of my life picking up broken pieces for other people. I have a huge heart, and I genuinely want the people I love to have everything they deserve.

I’m 34 years old. By the time I was 23, I had gotten my little brother out of foster care. He was only 3. It wasn’t something I planned for. I didn’t foresee that future… but when it happened, it just made sense. The plan was never to have him full-time, but life played the cards it did. I eventually adopted him…and now, more than a decade later, here we are.

Our dad is over four years sober now, and I’m proud of that. But sobriety tends to show up when you’re in the process of losing your child…and unfortunately for his parents, that wasn’t the hand they were dealt. His mom is currently serving up to five years in prison. It’s a sad story, especially for him. We have different moms before anyone judges mine too harshly…she isn’t my mom, she’s his. And despite everything, I still wish her the best. I actually wish everyone the best. Even people I dislike. I believe people can change. I try every day to become a better version of myself.

So before this turns into a full novel…here’s the point.

I do this for him.

And some of you might say, “Really? 18+ content? That’s for him?” No. The content isn’t. The income is.

I don’t receive child support. I get the occasional $100 from my dad when I see him…and that only started after he got sober. That’s not support. That’s a pat on the back.

I don’t have a partner helping me raise him. We were fortunate that my ex-boyfriend stepped up emotionally and became a real dad figure in his life…and I’m grateful for that. But he doesn’t pay for everyday needs, school clothes, sports programs, summer camps, or Christmas presents. That all falls on me.

I recently refinanced my house because I was in a complicated living situation with my ex and his wife. I bought him out, and while that gave me stability, it also increased my financial pressure. But all I can do is keep pushing forward…even when I don’t have the support system some people take for granted.

If you’re on this page reading this, that’s support. Even if it’s not a dollar sign. Being in my corner is support. If you can’t financially support a creator but you want to…your likes, comments, and shares truly help. Nothing goes unnoticed. Even if I don’t respond right away, I promise I eventually go back and read everything. I’m just balancing a lot…multiple platforms, a full-time job, and motherhood.

And for those who say, “Go get a real job” ….I have one. I work day in and day out. I clock into my “respectable job” then I come home and hustle…filming, editing, posting, replying, building. When my head hits the pillow, that’s my only break.

I will make it. For me. And for my son.

To the few of you who consistently show up for me…thank you. You help me buy groceries. You help keep this house running. Your support will never go unappreciated.

With love,
Shay 🖤